Love is a battlefield in which one should be equipped in order to survive. Survival can be realized through either self-sufficiency or dependence towards another person. That's why we're often left to a common question: Is it better to ride a solo flight or to go on a journey with 'the one'?
SINGLE VS. IN A RELATIONSHIP --- truth to be told, one can endure the war either way. I mean, being in whichever sides of the coin can be pretty awesome! Apparently, these relationship statuses turned out to be major hypes, thanks to Facebook. Like everyone's been making a big deal whenever certain individuals on their friends' list change their statuses, may it be a sham or not.
Regardless on what personal stories are behind those words, one should know why each of them has its own set of perks. So. read ahead and know the benefits you can dig up no matter what your current status is. =)
ON BEING SINGLE...
Distractions are far-removed from your system.
• With no distractions on hand, you could now focus on the more important things in life. You'll know how to prioritize! That is for young people, their focal point would be their education and for the adults, that'd be their jobs. Being single motivates you to take higher strides by looking at your other commitments where you can now devote and plunge yourself into without having your mind being sidetracked by the thoughts of your other-half.
Your time is completely your own.
• There's no formula for a perfect relationship but sure there's a formula for having a good one. In order to obtain positive results, both partners should invest lots of time and efforts. By that you'll have lesser or worse, no time for yourself. Now, where does "self love" go? It's a pity that relationships could shell out too much pressure that one can barely give himself/herself that much-wanted "lone time". When your single, you are your own schedule. Take advantage of the time and make the most of it.
Freedom and independence are now in front of your doorsteps.
• You're absolutely accounted to no one! You don't have to consult one's approval! Yahoo! Being single allows one to be his/her own complete self. Who cares if you wear that big, old, tacky t-shirt while placing your leg on the chair and eating your food sloppily with your bare hands? Sure, you can now make your own choices. You can now pursue all the "what-ifs" and just go with the flow. Remember, spontaneity is lovely!
More time for your friends and having a larger circle.
• Though it's fun hanging out with 'that' person, you can never deny that you kinda miss the feeling of being in a big group. Of course when you're attached, you have lesser time to be with your barkada and eventually you're being left-out with the what's-ins and what's-nots in the group. Plus, you can also socialize more with no partners getting jealous. You're congenial hormones will thank you for waking them up from their deep slumber.
Love and think about yourself.
• Those emotional roller-coaster rides you've felt from past relationships will bring changes in you. Now that you're single, you'll have the time to stabilize those emotions.You'll now have the chance to become aware of what you are. You need not to compromise with that person 'coz you can do what you want, all the best for your precious self. Singlehood will help you recognize yourself better. You'll learn to love yourself.... MORE! =)
ON BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP...
If there's instant coffee, there's an instant best friend.
• Friendship is the solid foundation for every relationship. Being in a healthy friendship with your boyfriend or girlfriend is an advantage, having him/her as your best friend is a perfect plus. He/she can be your immediate confidante, your guidance counselor, your best cheerleader, your avid supporter, what else? If you've got that perfect mix of friendship, he/she will never leave you hanging on the line. Just call out his/her name, that person will answer.
Someone to share Valentine's Day with.
• Actually, it isn't only Valentines Day but any other special occasions. Take for example, you need not to make yourself gaga on searching the corners of the universe for the perfect prom partner. You don't have to boggle your mind on whom to bring to that lovely Yule Ball (HP? Haha.). 'Coz there's that someone who's more than willing enough to volunteer. Moreover, having that someone will ease that discomfort you have in social gatherings. Luckily, he/she's there to talk to you and make you feel relaxed while waiting for that event to end. Surely, you'd like to hear that person sing this Michael Jackson ballad, "You are not alone, I am here with you." =)
An excuse to be in a full hopeless romantic mode.
• If not everyone, then most people adore watching romantic comedies and bask themselves under the same sun of romance. But seeing those actors and actresses in their most cheesy state will make your toes curl. Cheesiness can be disgusting at times. However, if you have someone who will reciprocate that dose of "cheesiness", then there's no problemo! When one's in love, he/she can be in full-blown hopeless romantic manner, you have the perfect excuse to be cheesy and all. One would love to see those romantic situations happen in real life and making the person you love feel ecstatic is all worth it.
One embraces maturity and growth as a person.
That blissful feeling called LOVE.
They say, love becomes more meaningful when you have someone to share it with. Being in a relationship is the key to that dictum. Relationship is about inspiring each other and maintaining that zeal of love at its best state. It's about supporting each other by bringing out the better versions of yourselves. Love brings out the best qualities of the individuals who are sharing it, lovers coexist without overshadowing one another. If you're in a relationship, just savor the moment and never ask for it to end.
The funny thing is that whenever one's single he/she wishes to be in a relationship in order to cure that loneliness he/she feels. BUT if he's/she's already taken, that person would want to have his/her old life back where he/she could just be wild and free. There goes the irony of it.
In a relationship spectrum, single and being taken are just different like how red and violet are on the opposite ends of the rainbow. Both have established their advantages and it's up for you readers to decide.
Well at the moment, I’m very much single. Though I'm open to the possibility of being in a relationship. Either way, being single or in a relationship isn't an issue for me. But how about you, is it better to fly solo or be in a commitment? I'll leave that to your heads now. :)
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